Obviously we're all a little different in our likes and dis-likes. People come from different families and different experiences so the things that attract us to someone can vary, however, there apparently are some very clear commonalities among people and according to these researchers there are behaviours and words that show up time and time again among successful long term relationships. Stylerave.com reports "Expressing thanks helps promote a positive and receptive environment. By showing gratitude, you recognize the contribution of the other person and motivate them to continue. It demonstrates your interest and involvement in the connection. As a result, you may communicate better with your partner with all honesty and openness. This could help you understand them better."